DEAR READERS: I acquired resounding feedback from a lot of you calling me out for my response to the girl whose husband was pushing her to attempt to have a son after she had already given start to 5 daughters.
I settle for your enter and need to share a few of it now.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I couldn’t disagree extra with the recommendation you gave “A Boy,” the spouse who’d had 5 daughters together with her husband, who nonetheless needed to strive for a sixth baby as a result of he desires a son.
You advised her to ask her OB-GYN for recommendation, and if he agrees that it will not be in her greatest curiosity to get pregnant once more, this needs to be sufficient for the husband to simply accept.
Harriette, the poor girl said that she’s emotionally and bodily exhausted! Why on this planet ought to she should get the assist of her physician to inform her husband she’s finished having kids?
This man wants to simply accept that he’s been blessed with 5 stunning and wholesome kids, thank his fortunate stars and cease being egocentric.
— Sufficient
DEAR HARRIETTE: I felt compelled to share my emotions in your reply to the woman with 5 daughters whose husband needed to strive once more for a son. Sorry, however you had been off base.
One other being pregnant is one thing she explicitly does not need. No matter what the physician says, there’s nonetheless an opportunity they won’t have a boy. What then? Extra disappointment from the husband and a requirement for baby No. 7?
If having a son is so necessary, they need to undertake, however I wager he has a fixation on passing his beautiful genes down. She must put her foot down.
— Don’t Do It, Lady
DEAR HARRIETTE: The surest method so as to add a boy to your loved ones is to undertake a boy! There are many boys who’re in search of their endlessly household. Ask your god to information you towards them in an effort to make everybody a contented, loving household.
— Loving Spirit
DEAR ALL: I get your messages loud and clear. My cause for recommending speaking to the OB-GYN (which I clearly didn’t state properly) is that it appeared this girl wanted some backup.
I assumed (which I shouldn’t have) that the OB-GYN would give a powerful no to the concept of one other baby. By including that voice, she wouldn’t be alone.
Sure, she is exhausted in all methods, however I additionally acquired the impression that she was not totally ready to face as much as her husband. Whoever she will get to assist her could be nice. Thanks all for chiming in to assist her!
The adoption thought might work if this girl thinks she will handle rearing one other baby in any respect. A sixth being to nurture for the subsequent 18 years or so continues to be lots.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founding father of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to assist folks entry and activate their goals. You possibly can ship questions toaskharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
