DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m considering of transferring to a brand new metropolis. I’ve by no means accomplished that earlier than, however I’m in my 30s and uninterested in my hometown.
I determine whereas I’m nonetheless single and younger and don’t have any property or babies to think about, now could also be the very best time for my massive transfer.
In planning a cross-country transfer, I’m additionally attempting to determine what sort of work I need to do. Outdoors of my company profession, I do make-up, and I’m wondering if now’s the time to wager on myself throughout the board: make a transfer and a profession pivot.
Is that an excessive amount of change abruptly?
— Huge Transfer
DEAR BIG MOVE: Take a while to plan out these subsequent few years.
If you wish to do make-up for a dwelling, create a portfolio of pictures that present your work. Construct a web site to serve in that capability. Get testimonials from purchasers whose make-up you will have accomplished.
Take into consideration the way you need to start a make-up enterprise and what cities might welcome you. For instance, you’ll be able to have a look at small cities with youthful populations. Proms, weddings and particular occasions may be profitable for make-up providers. Bigger cities could also be extra aggressive, however they might additionally current bigger markets and larger alternatives for purchasers.
Analysis locations that curiosity you and who lives there. Additionally take into account taking a company job however establishing a make-up enterprise on the facet — one which focuses on providing providers on the weekends and for particular occasions.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My finest good friend’s daughter has been struggling along with her psychological well being for a while now, and it’s troublesome to observe.
She not too long ago made the robust determination to withdraw from school for the semester as a result of she was feeling overwhelmed, and now she’s uncertain if she desires to return in any respect.
It’s heartbreaking as a result of she’s such a vivid, formidable younger lady who has all the time dreamed of changing into a lawyer. I understand how a lot strain school can placed on college students, particularly these with massive profession targets like hers, and I utterly perceive that she wants time to handle herself.
On the identical time, I fear that stepping away may make it more durable for her to return, and I don’t need her to lose sight of her desires.
I need to be supportive, however I’m undecided of the right strategy. Ought to I encourage her to take it gradual and deal with her well-being, or ought to I push her — gently — to begin serious about her subsequent steps so she doesn’t lose momentum?
How can I finest assist her and her mother throughout this difficult time with out overstepping?
— How To Assist
DEAR HOW TO HELP: Be an attentive listener. Stay actively concerned in her life. Make common plans to get collectively to speak about concepts, and encourage her to consider her future. Don’t push her in any route.
Speak to her mother, your finest good friend, about what the household desires for her. Do your finest to assist their choices.
It could actually get messy when others get entangled of their mates’ challenges. Tackle the position of supporter, listener, confidant — not adviser.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founding father of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to assist folks entry and activate their desires. You possibly can ship inquiries to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
