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Tracee Ellis Ross has opened up about her relationship life – and the actual motive why she prefers to be with youthful males.
The “Black-ish” actress, 52, mentioned her love life this week throughout an look on Michelle Obama’s “IMO” podcast, which the previous first girl co-hosts along with her brother, Craig Robinson.
Though Ross admitted that she has dated males her age, she famous that their “toxic masculinity” was an absolute turn-off for her.
“A lot of men my age are steeped in a toxic masculinity and have been raised in a culture where there is a particular way that a relationship looks,” the Golden Globe-winning actress defined to Obama, 61, on Wednesday.
“Anything that starts to smell of that for me – I did enough of it where I was controlled and felt like I was a possession or a prize – I just have no interest in it,” Ross added. “And I will not do it again.”
Whereas the “American Fiction” actress acknowledged that her feedback instructed an overgeneralization about males her age, she famous that she has seen and skilled an “openness” with suitors who’re youthful than herself, in comparison with those that usually are not.
“I have long been past the age where I feel like it’s my job to teach somebody or grow them up,” she defined. “That, I’m not interested in.”
Although Ross continues thus far and meet new potential companions, she mentioned she has additionally realized “how to live life and enjoy it” with out “sitting around waiting” – even when she does nonetheless generally lament on the issues that by no means have been.
“I grieve the things that I thought would be and that are not,” the “Mixed-ish” star admitted to Obama. “I’m not married. I don’t have children, and I think I grieve that at times.”
“As much as grief does surface for me around not having children and not having a partner,” she added, “I still wouldn’t want the wrong partner.”
Ross insisted that she is “not interested” in being “in a relationship to be in a relationship,” and that she “wakes up every morning trying to do my best.”
“I’m not interested in that,” she defined. “You have to make my life better. It can’t just be, ‘I’m in a relationship to be in a relationship.’ So even though the grief does emerge, and that comes, and I hold that, I think of what I’ve done. I wake up every morning trying to do my best.”
“I didn’t wake up one morning and be like, ‘I’m going to mess this day up.’ So I must be where I’m supposed to be,” Ross continued. “Sometimes I think of all of the things I’ve done, the courage that I have had to have, and what I’ve had to learn how to navigate as a single person with no one to hide behind.”
“And,” the actress concluded, “I’ve built a really beautiful experience around me.”
Though Ross has by no means been married, she did date music supervisor Abou “Bu” Thiam from 2011 to 2013, per SheKnows.com. Thiam is the youthful brother of singer Akon.
She additionally expressed her choice to stay single and childfree throughout a speech at Glamour’s Ladies of the 12 months Summit again in 2017.
“It’s really interesting to be a woman and to get to 45 and not be married and not have kids,” she mentioned on the time. “I’m a good friend, a solid daughter, a hard worker, my credit is good, I take out the garbage before it gets smelly, I recycle, and I won a Golden Globe!”
As for the previous first girl, she and her husband, former President Barack Obama, 63, have been dogged by divorce rumors in current weeks, though she appeared to dispel these rumors earlier this month.
