DEAR ABBY: For 2 years, I’ve been having an affair with my married neighbor, “Reed.”
Lately his stepdaughter broke up along with her boyfriend as a result of he cheated on her, and now Reed has damaged it off with me, saying he must be a task mannequin to his children.
I’m sorry his daughter is hurting, but when she hadn’t damaged up along with her boyfriend, Reed would nonetheless need this between us. Please inform me what I ought to do to recover from him.
— CUT OFF IN FLORIDA
DEAR CUT OFF: Look inward. Look at the explanation you began an affair with somebody who was unavailable.
Whereas it could have been enjoyable within the quick time period, in the event you wished something extra, it was a tragic waste of time.
When Reed noticed the ache his daughter’s boyfriend’s dishonest brought on her, I believe he realized how a lot his habits might have an effect on his household. Or, he was uninterested in sneaking round.
By ending this affair, he has accomplished you each a favor. When you acknowledge it, you’ll be able to transfer on.
DEAR ABBY: My son simply instructed me his daughter, age 26, is getting breast enhancement surgical procedure. My query is, how do I tackle that when subsequent I see her, most likely in a number of months?
It’s not like commenting on a brand new hair coloration or hairdo. Previous males commenting on feminine anatomy, notably that half, are usually not regarded upon favorably.
As I see it, there are two ways in which this goes. One, she mentions it to me — most likely not prone to occur. Two, she doesn’t point out it.
So, since she acquired the surgical procedure to make a visual distinction, how ought to I react? With out an introduction to the topic, I’m unsure I ought to make any response. Might my silence be perceived as a unfavorable or as an absence of approval?
I’d recognize your assist in formulating a response earlier than it turns into obligatory.
— COOL GRANDPA IN TEXAS
DEAR GRANDPA: In case your granddaughter mentions it — and he or she very effectively could — inform her she appears terrific. Look her within the eye once you say it.
If she does not elevate the topic, play it cool and preserve your lips zipped.
DEAR ABBY: Keith and I met on-line a couple of 12 months and a half in the past. We stay 400 miles aside and have visited one another a few instances.
I’m a single mother in my mid-30s and stay near household. Keith’s across the identical age and lives very near prolonged household of mine.
I’ve not too long ago realized that I could also be in love with him. I wish to confess my emotions and transfer to the place he’s if my emotions are reciprocated.
How do I method this topic?
I’m uninterested in going by way of the motions. I want one thing good and fixed in my life. I don’t need to all the time marvel “what if?”
— READY TO TAKE A STEP
DEAR READY: Has Keith ever instructed you that he misses you after these visits? If he has, it could be a sign that your emotions are reciprocated.
If he hasn’t, begin by telling him how a lot you may have loved your visits and that you just miss him. How he responds is necessary as a result of it could open the door to the place you need to take your friendship.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
