DEAR MISS MANNERS: My mother-in-law and sister-in-law wore white robes to my wedding ceremony.
Their actions had been so apparent that visitors commented on it, and the DJ requested for “the real bride to please stand up.”
Why would they do that on my wedding ceremony day?
GENTLE READER: A mean-spirited prank gone fallacious? Regardless, it doesn’t bode nicely on your future relationship with them. Or for a shared humorousness.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’ve been relationship a lady for simply over three months. A number of weeks in the past, I requested if she and her daughter want to take a street journey with me to a desert city that may be very pricey to me.
I’ve been visiting the place yearly for over 20 years and personal some land there. I’ve been taking my small, aged canine with me on these journeys.
My girlfriend unexpectedly introduced that she supposed to carry her two younger, energetic canine on the journey. I ought to have instantly tried to nip it within the bud, however I didn’t wish to seem to be a jerk.
The concept of the three of us, my aged canine and her two canine making the journey actually harassed me out. Once I requested her to not carry her canine and provided to not carry mine, she threw a match.
I requested her once more and advised her why, however the journey date is approaching and he or she hasn’t actually tried to discover a place for the canine to remain.
Am I proper that inviting canine on a visit is presumptuous, or am I an uptight jerk?
GENTLE READER: Wellllllll … Miss Manners wouldn’t outright name you the latter. However it’s not an unreasonable presumption that because you had been bringing your canine, your girlfriend thought canine had been welcome.
That you’d junk the thought all collectively slightly than endure hers will not be the conciliatory transfer you thought it was. And Miss Manners will not be assured that your subsequent clarification didn’t make it worse.
Pet house owners, like mother and father, don’t take kindly to being advised that their dependents are undesirable, even when there’s proof. If you wish to get extra critical along with her, you and your canine should study to tolerate hers. Why not observe on comparatively impartial territory first?
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Once I give somebody a trip to a shared vacation spot, I count on them to drive to my home, after which I’ll take them the remainder of the way in which.
One good friend refuses when my home is in the other way of our vacation spot.
I believe that is bizarre! Why do I’ve to drive to her home to choose her up? Not a deal-breaker by any means, however it appears fairly unusual to me. What distinction does it make which route you’re touring in to get a trip?
GENTLE READER: It’s certainly unusual, however not for the explanations you cite.
Miss Manners thought the purpose of providing a trip was in order that the opposite individual wouldn’t should drive. Whether it is essential to drive to your own home — and in the other way of the vacation spot — how is that this sensible, a lot much less a favor?
Fortuitously for the friendship, you could have declared it to not be a deal-breaker. One hopes that you just two will determine it out and reconcile — in time to get to your subsequent vacation spot.
Please ship your inquiries to Miss Manners at her web site, www.missmanners.com; to her electronic mail, gentlereader@missmanners.com; or by way of postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
