DEAR ABBY: My husband and I graduated collectively from the identical highschool. This yr was our class’s fiftieth reunion.
Now we have attended each reunion, and at every one in every of them acquired the identical reactions from classmates. They all the time discuss to my husband, shake his hand or hug him, however have a look at my title tag and photograph and ignore me like they did in highschool.
I’ll be the primary to confess I’m nothing to have a look at. The one individuals who spoke to me had been the lecturers and my husband. I attempted arduous to be social, however my classmates simply glared at me and walked away. One even stated to a bunch of scholars, “The dog tried to talk to me.”
My husband and I lately celebrated our forty ninth marriage ceremony anniversary, and I requested him why he dated and married me once I was invisible to his co-workers and classmates. He replied: “It’s all in your head!” He has seen the reactions from co-workers and classmates, but it has by no means bothered him that I’ve by no means been acknowledged.
It hurts so unhealthy I lastly informed him I wouldn’t attend any extra reunions as a result of I assumed after 50 years, our classmates ought to have grown up. He informed me I used to be being paranoid.
It has by no means been in my head, Abby, particularly once I lengthen a hand and inform the classmate it’s good to see them, just for them to then stroll away. What’s your opinion on this?
— REALLY INVISIBLE IN MINNESOTA
DEAR REALLY INVISIBLE: I can’t imagine that you’ve got tolerated this for 50 years. My opinion is that your former classmates lack class and compassion, and your husband is not any higher than they’re to have ignored their rudeness.
For heaven’s sake, go well with your self when that reunion rolls round once more. Skip it and do one thing that you would get pleasure from!
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been courting a man for 10 years. We’re each divorced with no want to get married.
We’re snug with our residing preparations. We stay an hour and a half aside and spend a big period of time collectively at one another’s homes.
A single girl lives just a few homes down from him, and they’re associates. Theirs is a really small, secluded lake city. Once I’m not round, they’ve an occasional drink collectively. He says it doesn’t occur typically. I’ve by no means been formally launched to her.
I’ve informed him I’m uncomfortable with this and have requested him to cease. I even instructed he invite her over once I’m there. Your ideas?
— SUSPICIOUS IN ALBERTA, CANADA
DEAR SUSPICIOUS: My thought is that after 10 years, it’s time you met the competitors, if there is any competitors.
The following time you’re in that “small, secluded lake town” invite her to drop by so you may lastly get to know her. Her response (and this man’s) will let you know all you must know. (In the event that they react like two scalded cats, you might have purpose to really feel suspicious.)
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
