DEAR HARRIETTE: I feel you flubbed the final a part of your reply to “Bad Choice,” who was getting inappropriate messages from a co-worker she had dated and damaged up with.
After she meets with this man (personally, I feel she ought to skip this half), she ought to ship him an e-mail in order that there’s a document stating that she is following up on their dialog. She ought to reiterate that what he’s doing is inappropriate, and he or she is requesting that it cease.
She also needs to let him know that though she want to keep the cordial relationship they’d previous to the failed courting try, if he continues to ship inappropriate content material, she is going to escalate with the human assets division.
You missed the truth that as soon as she asks him to cease, if he doesn’t, it places the corporate liable to a sexual harassment case.
Please contemplate revising your reply, as merely ignoring undesirable advances isn’t right for any particular person — male or feminine — to do.
— Modification
DEAR AMENDMENT: Robust and honest factors. Thanks for sharing your insights.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve been dreaming of touring solo for some time now, however each time I deliver it up, family and friends warn me that it’s too harmful.
They inform me that I ought to wait till I’ve a journey companion or be a part of a gaggle journey. Whereas I perceive their considerations, I don’t need concern to carry me again from experiencing the world by myself phrases.
I do fear that touring alone may really feel isolating. As thrilling because it sounds to have the liberty to discover at my very own tempo, I’m nervous that I would get lonely with out somebody to share the expertise with. I don’t need to spend the entire journey feeling like one thing is lacking or wishing I had somebody there with me.
I’ve examine individuals who say solo journey is life-changing and builds confidence, however I’m wondering if it’s proper for me.
How can I ensure that I keep secure whereas additionally getting essentially the most out of the expertise? Ought to I push previous my doubts and go for it, or is it higher to attend till I discover a journey companion?
— On the Street
DEAR ON THE ROAD: Don’t let different individuals’s fears forestall you from pursuing your goals. Many individuals have the fortitude to enterprise out on their very own and achieve this safely and efficiently.
For some individuals, touring in teams and having to mesh schedules and pursuits will be painful and look like a burden. All of it is determined by your character. Don’t let your family members persuade you to do what they might discover most comfy.
In the event you resolve to journey alone, take the mandatory precautions. Ensure somebody has your full itinerary, together with contact info for the varied locations the place you may be staying, flight data, and so on., as you could have it.
Do your analysis to study factors of curiosity, areas which can be thought-about harmful and why, gown codes, prices and customs. One nice useful resource is journey.state.gov — click on Journey Advisories within the banner on the prime. Be cautious, at the same time as you will be adventurous.
Be cautious of stereotypes, too. For instance, I used to be cautioned about visiting and residing in Harlem years in the past. I used to be instructed it was unsafe. Not solely did I go to — at first in daytime out of warning — however I ended up shifting there. It was and is simply as secure as another neighborhood within the Massive Apple.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founding father of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to assist individuals entry and activate their goals. You’ll be able to ship inquiries to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
