DEAR ABBY: My finest buddy of 45 years and I are 65. She is married; I’ve been divorced for a few years.
She not too long ago shocked me by claiming {that a} mutual buddy instructed her I’ve been having an affair with a married acquaintance!
That is false, and I now wonder if she stated it as a result of she suspects it herself.
After I acquired indignant and stated I’d confront the opposite buddy, she demanded that I not achieve this, as a result of it could “make her look bad for telling.”
May my suspicion be right? If the opposite individual was the one who really suspected me, why wouldn’t my buddy need me to query her?
— PUZZLED LADY OUT WEST
DEAR PUZZLED LADY: Not figuring out your finest buddy of 45 years, I’m not able to reply that query. Nonetheless, the surest solution to resolve this is able to be to go on to the individual your BFF stated instructed her and ask the place she acquired such an thought.
DEAR ABBY: My daughter is being married in just a few weeks and is insisting I sit along with her father on the ceremony.
Abby, we’ve been divorced for 20 years. I’ve been remarried for 12. Her father has not remarried.
My husband has not tried to exchange her father, and I feel it’s impolite that he could be anticipated to take a seat with the friends as a substitute of with me, his spouse.
I used to be compelled to do that at my different daughter’s wedding ceremony just a few months in the past, and it was very uncomfortable.
I need to look ahead to my daughter’s day. What’s your tackle this?
— MUSICAL CHAIRS IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR MUSICAL CHAIRS: You shouldn’t have agreed to that seating association at your different daughter’s wedding ceremony, and also you shouldn’t do it at this one. Your husband belongs subsequent to you.
If you happen to and your ex are pleasant, your ex may sit on the other aspect of you out of your husband. If you happen to’re not, he may sit on the finish of the row on the aisle.
However your husband shouldn’t be compelled to take a seat with the opposite friends, as a result of he’s greater than a visitor, he’s a member of the family.
DEAR ABBY: For holidays and particular events, we often have eight individuals at a six-place eating room desk.
Two of our friends are “orphans,” who had been invited by my higher half. The issue is, the person is a chain-smoker, and I nearly all the time get a splitting headache in his presence.
I can maintain my breath for the ten seconds or so when he and I hug hi there, however what do you recommend I say or do on the dinner desk? I shall be on the farthest finish doable, however I’ll nonetheless be only a few ft away from the issue. Uninviting them will not be an possibility.
— SMOKED OUT IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR SMOKED OUT: Fortunate you. You reside in California the place it’s doable to open home windows and get cross air flow.
As a result of it isn’t doable to uninvite these friends, give your eating room as a lot contemporary air as doable and demand that in case your friends “must” smoke, they do it outdoors and much from the open home windows.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
