Today, Rachael Kirkconnell is doing simply rosy.
After splitting with Matt James in January after 4 years collectively, the influencer, 28, is getting candid on how she’s moved ahead with life.
“I’ll say it’s night and day – at least that’s how it feels right now,” Kirkconnell solely advised The Submit whereas selling her partnership with Every & Each. “It was a tough start to the year but we’re doing really well over here. I think I would have to attribute that to being really intentional about putting a lot of self love and self work back into me.”
She added, “I think it’s easier said than done but I feel like I have a lot of time on my hands that I didn’t have before and so I’m being a little bit selfish and I’m putting myself first right now. It’s kind of nice.”
Today, Kirkconnell’s “selfish era” is ever evolving.
“I would say it looks different every day,” she defined. “I think it looks different from how it did at the beginning until now. I’m sure at first, most days were just a lot of relaxing, staying off the internet and honestly bed rotting, watching my favorite shows, re-reading my favorite books.”
Whereas relationship James, 33, the pair traveled around the globe and have been identified for his or her meals opinions, however now, Kirkconnell is concentrated on refining her expertise within the kitchen.
“I’m loving my nice long walks or my workout classes. I’m really enjoying getting back into cooking,” confessed the foodie. “More homemade meals. More whole foods instead off always eating out or going to a different restaurant or getting takeout. I think my body has been enjoying that a lot too, eating at home a lot more. And being intentional with even the products I am using.”
After going by way of such a public breakup, Kirkconnell has additionally had the possibility to mirror on what she’s discovered about herself over the previous three months.
“I haven’t been on my own or been single since I was 23 — I’m pushing 30 now,” the truth star expressed. “I think that I’m a totally different person than I was back then. I’ve put myself on the back-burner and I’ve really learned that I’m such a nurturer and I love to take care of everyone else around me.”
Kirkconnell realized that whereas she likes to handle these near her, it isn’t at all times simple for her to place herself first.
“I think that’s one big thing that I’ve learned about myself this year. I really need to treat myself how I do with those I love around me. It’s a lot more difficult to show myself that love that I love to give to others. But we’re getting there.”
Sharing recommendation on learn how to take again your confidence, the social media star merely acknowledged, “Try to figure out where it stems from.”
“I think it could stem from a lot of different places,” Kirkconnell divulged. “I think for me, I lacked self-confidence for a lot of different reasons and maybe at times I wasn’t feeling as uplifted and supported from my partner but also I don’t think I was giving myself that love and attention. And again, I was really putting myself on the back burner. So, I think it definitely depends on where it stems from. I would urge people to really look inward and ask yourself where that comes from.”
She famous “Getting to the root problem is the best thing you can do for yourself.”
Kirkconnell and James fell in love on Season 25 of “The Bachelor” in 2021. Regardless of not getting engaged through the finale, the 2 dated over the subsequent 4 years.
Throughout their season, Kirkconnell got here beneath scrutiny after previous pictures of her at an antebellum-themed celebration in school resurfaced.
On the time, James briefly broke up with the tv persona, who had issued a public apology, however they shortly acquired again collectively after the finale.
Trying again, Kirkconnell is aware of what she would inform her youthful self who was about to embark on the whirlwind of a journey.
“Buckle up!” she teased. “I’m just kidding. I would just really tell her to not leave her independence behind. To give herself so much grace and to love herself and show herself that love. I think that it got a little lost along the way.”
“I’m a big believer that everything that is meant to be will be and happen exactly how it’s supposed to,” Kirkconnell shared. “And I’m not saying that because I’m living with any sort of regret or I wish I did things differently but I just wish I had a lot more grace for myself and and love for myself throughout the process. I wish I was a little bit more selfish at times or put myself first at times.”
And though “The Bachelor” alum isn’t trying to leap again into the relationship pool fairly but — she does have a couple of celeb crushes in thoughts.
“Walton Goggins. That is the man of the week!” Kirkconnell gushed. “I just finished ‘White Lotus’ two nights ago and that man is taking over my timeline right now and I love him. His aura is crazy. I would say he’s my crush of the week for sure.”
Not for lengthy, because the extremely anticipated second season of “The Last Of Us” is returning to tv on Sunday.
“I promise you next week it will be different,” Kirkconnell reiterated. “You know what’s coming back? ‘The Last of Us’ is coming back on Sunday so next week it will probably be Pedro Pascal. Every week it changes like that. It’s probably what I listen to or watch. Glen [Powell] is still up there. He just came out with a condiment brand and I’ve heard only great things. I can’t wait to try it. I love a man who’s a big foodie like me. He seems like a big foodie, so Glen is still up there!”
