Our Brother Skips Household Celebrations Due To His Strict Rule

DEAR ABBY: I’ve 4 dwelling siblings, all of us in our 60s. Our dad and mom and grandparents have handed.

After we have been dwelling at residence, holidays have been particular and celebrated on the precise day. As soon as we moved away and began households of our personal, it grew to become tough to get collectively yearly on the precise date of the vacation.

A few of us remained single; others wished to spend the day with in-laws or at residence with spouses and kids. Now our grandchildren and their households have been added to the combo. We nonetheless wished to get collectively, so some years we collect on the precise vacation and a few years on a day or weekend earlier than or after. This appeared like an important compromise.

Thirty years in the past, one in all our siblings determined that he wouldn’t be a part of us for any holidays, together with birthdays, until they have been celebrated on the precise day.

With totally different work schedules, journey and different household obligations, accommodating the needs of the one sibling has been impractical. We now have missed him vastly through the years as we proceed gathering to have a good time as a household.

How can we persuade our lacking sibling to hitch us for holidays every time we’re capable of get collectively as a household versus him staying residence alone?

— MOURNING IN MINNESOTA

DEAR MOURNING: When the household gathers, name and FaceTime your absent sibling so he can see the merriment he’s lacking. Inform him you would like he may very well be there celebrating with you.

Nevertheless, after 30 years of self-imposed exile, don’t anticipate him to alter his sample, as a result of it’s unlikely to occur.

DEAR ABBY: My relationship with my associate hasn’t been the best, however we’re each engaged on ourselves to turn into higher companions.

Lately, I came upon he has been texting one other feminine (flirting). He 100% swore to me nothing extra has occurred apart from the texting. He claims he likes the eye. This different girl is aware of he’s in a relationship.

How can I transfer ahead from this?

Earlier than I came upon, issues have been beginning to get higher. Now I’m undecided find out how to really feel. I need to transfer previous this, however I’m hurting. Assist!

— TAKEN ABACK IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR TAKEN ABACK: I perceive that you’re hurting, and I’m sincerely sorry. Your associate has some critical flaws that you simply shouldn’t take frivolously.

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