DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I’ve been married seven years. It’s the second marriage for each of us. Now we have an excellent relationship and love one another.
I instructed her earlier than we had been married that, whereas I like animals, I are not looking for a pet. She’s an animal lover and is now pressuring me to get a small canine. She’s hoping I’ll change my place, however I can’t.
She instructed me this morning that she may need to depart me and discover somebody who desires a pet. I instructed her I perceive and can settle for her choice.
Now I would like steerage as a result of I notice {that a} canine is extra vital to her than our relationship. Please assist.
— ANNOYED IN INDIANA
DEAR ANNOYED: I want you’d have said why you are feeling so strongly about not having a (small) canine in your house. You and your spouse want extra mediation than I can provide in a letter.
A wedding counselor might be able to enable you to speak with one another extra successfully than you’ve been.
On your spouse to have given you a semi-ultimatum was fallacious, nevertheless it signifies to me that you just two might have extra issues to resolve than whether or not to get a canine.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with the identical man for 3 years, and we now have been engaged for a 12 months.
I like him with all my coronary heart, however I simply realized by means of a telephone name that he has been playing around with males from the web. I’ve additionally seen some messages in his e mail.
Does this imply he’s bi and by no means instructed me? I don’t know what to do. Please assist me earlier than I make a mistake.
— HURTING IN LOVE
DEAR HURTING: What this implies is your fiance is both bisexual or homosexual. For each your sakes, inform him you realize what has been happening, as a result of if he’s untrue now, marriage vows gained’t change him.
Ask your physician to check you for STDs, after which name off the marriage so yow will discover a mate who will probably be devoted — and he can discover a relationship by which he can actually be himself.
DEAR ABBY: Our daughter, son-in-law and two grandsons dwell in Australia due to our son-in-law’s job.
One grandson will probably be bar mitzvahed quickly, and our daughter is asking us to ship her a listing of our mates so she will ship them invites.
As a result of going to Australia is such an extended and costly journey, we’re fairly positive that none of our mates will attend and can regard the invitation as a request for a present. Ought to we ship her the listing she’s requesting?
— CONFUSED GRANDPARENTS
DEAR GRANDPARENTS: I’m towards sending an invite to anybody who isn’t a detailed relative for the rationale you said. Due to the gap, it will look like a bid for items or cash.
A diplomatic method of conveying the information of your grandson’s ceremony of passage can be to share it verbally with mates — who can then volunteer that they want to ship the boy one thing. Maybe the suggestions you obtain can form the invitation listing.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
