DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I are in our 80s, married for 61 years. We’re financially well-off and have few medical points.
As we strategy our departure from this Earth, we’ve created the required authorized paperwork to distribute our property. So, what’s the issue? My partner is a “collector.”
We have now great china settings, sterling silver and exquisite linens. At one time, we set a stupendous desk. In the present day, previous age has caught up with us. Most of these invitees are gone. However my partner and I reside like we did 50 years in the past, and it’s getting on my nerves.
No person needs our stuff! It’s time to divest ourselves of possessions that any individual else might need an curiosity in and get them off our arms.
My partner refuses to half with something. There’s at all times an excuse to maintain the litter.
I noticed this in my dad and mom many years in the past. If it got here within the entrance door, it didn’t exit once more.
Why are individuals so hooked on issues, and what may be accomplished to alleviate my anxiousness?
— READY TO LET GO IN SAN FRANCISCO
DEAR READY: Think about this: Each piece of china and crystal, each sample of silverware and all of the equipment that individuals used to assume have been essential to create a stupendous residence (and life), have treasured reminiscences connected.
The place you see litter, your spouse sees the completely satisfied years spent buying it and entertaining.
As a result of this stuff are not getting used, they could possibly be boxed up “just in case” they’re wanted once more. {Photograph} them so you’ve gotten a report of what they’re, and focus on along with your spouse probably donating them to a charity thrift retailer.
If you are right that younger individuals at the moment aren’t as avid about formal entertaining as members of your technology have been, there are nonetheless individuals round who acknowledge high quality and worth who could be considering having a few of it.
As to your anxiousness, focus on this along with your physician and, if crucial, ask for a referral to a therapist for some counseling.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve a beautiful, clever 19-year-old daughter. She’s a junior in school in one other metropolis.
She has at all times been extraordinarily skinny. We have now taken her to docs to deal with this. They found a vitamin deficiency and advised she eat extra nutritious meals with nutritional vitamins prescribed.
My query is, is it OK to push meals on her after her barely eaten meals? She will get full instantly and doesn’t at all times take her nutritional vitamins. I don’t need her to distance herself from me by insisting she eat extra.
— MOTHERING MOTHER IN TEXAS
DEAR MOTHER: I don’t suggest that you just “push” meals in your daughter. For those who do, it might trigger her to insurgent.
I do, nonetheless, assume it could be a good suggestion for you to do a little analysis about consuming problems, as a result of your daughter might have one.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
