DEAR HARRIETTE: My youngest sister is within the strategy of making use of and being accepted to schools — for the second time.
She’s had some hassle up to now when it comes to staying centered and prioritizing her diploma and her schooling, and now as she’s making use of to get again into school, she’s consistently consulting her buddies.
I received’t go judgment on any of her buddies as a result of I don’t actually know their observe information all that effectively, however I fear that she is extra involved with going to the identical faculty as buddies than with utilizing school as a chance to study new issues, meet new folks and discover herself extra.
Having buddies going by means of the identical issues as you may be nice, however I don’t need her to be too depending on others or use buddies as a crutch out of concern.
I don’t need to come off as controlling. I simply don’t need to see her get distracted from one other nice alternative.
— School Influences
DEAR COLLEGE INFLUENCES: Speak to your sister extra, and provide to assist her by means of the appliance course of.
Ask her what she needs to review and what she needs to do together with her life. Encourage her to pick out colleges specializing in her pursuits as her prime precedence. On this manner, she will put together herself for her future.
With out being too judgy, level out that if it really works for her to attend school together with her buddies, that’s tremendous, however it shouldn’t be her precedence. Every particular person has a future, and now’s the time to begin figuring out what hers is.
Remind her that being connected to her present buddies is just not essentially a part of it. You’ll be able to inform her that many individuals who develop up collectively stay shut even when they go to completely different colleges, reside in different cities and comply with completely different paths. She doesn’t have to fret that she’s going to lose her buddies as she makes good selections for her life.
DEAR HARRIETTE: Your response to “Sad Journalist,” the reader who was considering switching careers and going to regulation faculty, was good, however it didn’t handle the author’s concern about being a “40-year-old first-year lawyer.”
Take it from a (now retired) 42-year-old first-year accountant: Second careers may be extremely profitable and really fulfilling.
Don’t let the truth that all the opposite first-year attorneys are practically 20 years youthful concern you. In reality, chances are you’ll discover different first-year professionals beginning their second — and even third — careers.
— Been There, Completed That and So Completely happy I Did
DEAR BEEN THERE, DONE THAT AND SO HAPPY I DID: Thanks for sharing your expertise. You’re completely proper.
I meet so many people who find themselves transitioning from one occupation into one other. It was once that folks had a job or profession, it lasted for 40 years and so they received a gold watch. Not so anymore. It’s comparatively widespread for folks to pivot at completely different factors of their lives. There’s no disgrace in that! Plus, the expertise that you’ve gained alongside the best way in different areas will assist you in your new position.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founding father of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to assist folks entry and activate their desires. You’ll be able to ship inquiries to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
