DEAR ABBY: My niece and I’ve all the time had a powerful bond.
Her son and his spouse have been anticipating a child. They didn’t need to inform anybody moreover fast household till she reached her second trimester.
My niece informed me. I used to be supposed to maintain it a secret.
I’ve been depressed as a result of my son goes by way of a divorce, and my psychiatrist put me on a brand new remedy. Whereas I used to be on the remedy, for some motive I forgot about holding the being pregnant a secret and despatched a textual content to my niece’s son congratulating him.
My niece is past offended at me. I informed her I don’t know why I did that. Come to seek out out the remedy could cause “confusion.” I informed my physician what occurred, and he or she verified it. I defined to my niece concerning the remedy.
Though we don’t reside shut, we often discuss loads. We haven’t spoken since this.
I’ve apologized. I’d like to have that bond once more. Is there something I can do?
— SPILLED THE SECRET
DEAR SPILLED: You’ve already performed what you may. Your niece is now going to need to work by way of her anger and disappointment. Nonetheless, if and when that occurs, don’t count on to be her confidant once more. That ship has seemingly sailed.
DEAR ABBY: My good friend of eight years has her 55-year-old son dwelling along with her.
She has been driving a person round; she informed me he’s a good friend of her son’s and he or she is aware of his household. What she by no means talked about is that he’s a registered violent intercourse offender who was simply launched from jail.
She is aware of how I really feel about this concern. Intercourse offenders usually are not allowed the place we reside as a result of there are kids right here. I’m very upset, and I informed her to by no means name me once more or come to my house.
She introduced the person to her house for a cookout. Kids reside on either side of her.
She has been making an attempt to speak to me, however I’ve walked away. I really feel damage and lied to. She appears to not care about defending the youngsters within the neighborhood. What ought to I do right here?
— INCENSED IN INDIANA
DEAR INCENSED: Do the accountable factor. For the security of these youngsters, inform the police {that a} neighbor has been bringing a registered violent intercourse offender to her house regardless of the truth that minor youngsters reside on both facet of her. The authorities can take it from there.
TO MY ASIAN READERS WHO CELEBRATE THE LUNAR NEW YEAR: The Lunar New Yr begins at this time. It’s the Yr of the Snake. In response to Asian tradition, people born within the yr of the snake are goal-oriented. They’re wonderful mediators — clever, refined, intelligent in enterprise and are good suppliers as a result of they worth materials wealth. A wholesome, joyful and affluent New Yr to you all. (Hiss, hiss, hooray!) — LOVE, ABBY
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
