DEAR ABBY: My husband’s mates and their son got here to spend the weekend at our new camper with us.
We requested their son repeatedly in entrance of his mother and father to not do damaging issues. After the weekend, at my husband’s urging, I texted the girl about his habits.
When her husband texted mine about it, my husband didn’t again me up. My daughter informed me she heard him inform the person on the cellphone that it was all me, and that they had been welcome again once I was on trip. I used to be livid.
That was three years in the past, and my husband nonetheless hangs out with them. He has requested me to apologize so we will all be mates once more.
Am I flawed for demanding he inform the reality, that he needed that textual content despatched, that he lied and it was not “just me”? I would like him to again me up as he ought to have.
— TICKED-OFF WIFE
DEAR WIFE: Face it. Your husband set you up after which chickened out. The place he ought to have a spine, it seems he has a moist noodle.
You aren’t flawed for wanting him to fess up, however don’t anticipate it to occur. On this topic, your husband is extra fascinated with pacifying his buddy than what your emotions about it might be. You have got my sympathy.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in a relationship with somebody for 11 months. We’re each one another’s first relationship after being single for just a few years following traumatic breakups.
Throughout our total relationship, he has not minimize his hair, left his home or socialized with anybody in addition to me, besides by way of textual content.
He doesn’t go to me, however he at all times leaves his door open for me. We now have mentioned going out, however he at all times finds a motive to remain inside. After some time, I spotted they had been simply excuses.
He claims to be tremendous, however his mom and I are anxious. She informed me he grew to become this fashion after his breakup and COVID.
My boyfriend at all times appears completely happy round me and states that he needs to marry and have youngsters. He additionally says “I love you” and expresses his want to be with me.
His social media reveals a totally totally different man, nevertheless it was all previous to his breakup. What ought to I do?
— DISCOURAGED IN MICHIGAN
DEAR DISCOURAGED: As a result of this man was a unique individual earlier than his breakup and the COVID pandemic, and his mom can be anxious about him, communicate up.
Individuals who lose curiosity in issues they used to do and now not groom themselves could also be affected by melancholy, which his physician may assist him with.
Make it clear to your reclusive boyfriend that you’ve been affected person for nearly a 12 months now, and if he needs to proceed having a relationship with you, he should seek the advice of a licensed psychological well being skilled about his concern of leaving his home. With out skilled assist, he received’t get higher, and this might turn out to be your life as effectively.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
