DEAR ABBY: How do I inform my buddy I really feel she wants a psychological well being analysis?
She has been my closest buddy for 20 years, and we have now been by means of many trials collectively. She has been married for a few years to a person who appears very good.
Abby, she is satisfied that she’s being adopted, however doesn’t know by whom or why.
She additionally tells me about horrible arguments she has along with her husband as a result of she thinks he orchestrated conditions in public locations. As an example, she claims he seats himself ready to have a look at different ladies. The poor man is blind in a single eye and has restricted imaginative and prescient within the different.
She believes his ex-wife flirts with him and he’s most likely dishonest along with her, though they’ve been divorced for 20 years. She resents his contact along with his grandkids and his household due to it.
I ought to add that her mom was identified with early-onset Alzheimer’s at round her age. It’s heartbreaking to look at. I’ve talked about it quite a few occasions, in addition to suggesting she communicate to a pastor (she thinks the church could also be in on it) or a therapist, however she tends to dodge it.
If I attempt to contact her husband, she’s going to begin to assume I’m a traitor. I don’t know methods to assist. Please advise.
— TRAINWRECK IN ARIZONA
DEAR TRAINWRECK: Out of your description of your buddy’s paranoid and irrational conduct, she seems to be sick. As a result of neither you nor I are certified to diagnose what has gone mistaken along with her, she must be evaluated by a physician.
It could not be betraying her to debate this along with her beleaguered husband, who could also be at a loss about methods to take care of her conduct. Quite than a betrayal, seeing that she will get assist could be an amazing favor.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a “young” senior citizen (age 90). Individuals typically assume I’m in my early 60s as a result of I look and act it. I’ve been widowed thrice by ladies youthful than I.
I lately met a lady I’m very interested in. I feel the sensation could also be mutual. Now we have lots in frequent. The primary time we talked on the cellphone, the dialog lasted greater than three hours.
Final night, I discovered whereas speaking on the cellphone along with her that I’m older than her mom by one 12 months. Would you advise me to “back off”?
— JUST A NUMBER IN COLORADO
DEAR JUST A NUMBER: If her mom is 89, the lady to whom you might be attracted might be not a lot youthful than 60. I see no purpose so that you can “back off” or obscure your age. As a result of the 2 of you’ve got lots in frequent, benefit from the relationship.
(If she’s courageous sufficient to be with you after you’ve got killed off three youthful ladies, extra energy to her!)
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
