DEAR ABBY: My husband has a horrible behavior. He likes to order dessert first and asks that it’s served to him at first of his meal.
Final evening, we had been at a party with 15 adults in a restaurant and he did it once more. They served an exquisite cake for dessert, which he loved on the finish of the meal, in addition to his pie originally when nobody else was having something however drinks.
He says it wasn’t impolite, however I disagree. Please, what say you?
— BACKWARDS IN IOWA
DEAR BACKWARDS: This can be much less a query of whether or not your husband is impolite for indulging his yen for sugar than is it wholesome for him.
How’s his weight? His blood sugar ranges? Any diabetes within the household? What does his physician give it some thought?
Whereas ordering dessert earlier than dinner and once more afterward is uncommon, I’m undecided it’s impolite. It might, nevertheless, be a bid for consideration.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve began seeing somebody I’ve recognized for years. On our first date, he advised me he had tried a number of instances to divorce his ex of a few years.
He mentioned they dwell in several states, and every time he’s tried, one thing has gone awry.
I’m about to start out nursing faculty, and what I would like is a relationship of comfort to work round my schedule. We’ve talked about courting one another solely, however we agreed it received’t result in marriage as a result of he’s on his third and at present doesn’t have the funds to rent a lawyer to get out of it.
I’m seeing him as a pal with advantages to hang around with. Is that this relationship OK?
— CHALLENGED IN UTAH
DEAR CHALLENGED: You appear fairly clear concerning the casualness of this relationship. If it’s OK with you, OK with him and OK with spouse No. 3, then it’s OK with me. OK?
DEAR ABBY: I dwell with an exquisite accomplice. We share the duties of constructing a phenomenal life round us. Nonetheless, our mutual associates appear to reward my accomplice, however not me.
I ponder if this can be my fault. I at all times say good issues about him, whereas I uncover many unfavourable points have been raised about me.
As soon as, after I confronted him about it, the response was: “Aren’t you talking about me with other people?” I’ve by no means mentioned a foul factor about him to anybody.
Am I making a circle of hate round myself?
— CIRCLED IN MINNESOTA
DEAR CIRCLED: No, you aren’t. In case your accomplice has a grievance about you, he ought to focus on it with you quite than the individuals with whom you socialize.
The expression “circle of hate” appears excessive, however your “wonderful” accomplice portray you in a unfavourable mild hardly enhances your picture, and it ought to be stopped. That received’t occur till you lastly draw the road and clarify that what he’s been doing is unacceptable.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
