DEAR ABBY: My little sister is getting married, and our household is thrilled for her.
She’s having a small wedding ceremony and has chosen to not have a bridal get together. At first, I used to be unhappy as a result of she was the maid of honor in my wedding ceremony, however I respect her and her fiance’s determination.
My quandary is that I joked that I’m off the hook from writing a speech, since I’m not the MOH. However — she nonetheless needs me to jot down a speech and provides a toast. I don’t need to!
It looks as if she needs to have her wedding ceremony cake and eat it, too. Your ideas?
— SPEECHLESS SIS IN GEORGIA
DEAR SIS: What’s your drawback? Why would you need to do something that may reduce your little sister’s happiness on her special occasion? It seems you weren’t joking in any case while you stated you had been “off the hook.”
My thought is you have to be sincere with your self about your motivations, then dismount out of your excessive horse, write the darn speech and make it heartfelt.
DEAR ABBY: I fell in love with my greatest pal. Once I informed her 10 years in the past, she distanced herself.
We had been nonetheless mates, however she went on making dangerous decisions in her relationships, and I by no means discovered anybody who may evaluate to her.
We reconnected not too long ago and have as soon as once more turn out to be very shut. I nonetheless love her, and I all the time will.
She doesn’t share the identical emotions I’ve, and whereas I need to ask her why, I haven’t requested as a result of I don’t need to lose her once more.
Am I incorrect for settling for our superb friendship? How can I persuade her that we may very well be way more than simply one another’s greatest pal with out dropping her?
— LOVESICK GUY IN THE EAST
DEAR LOVESICK GUY: When a lady distances herself after a person tells her he needs romantic involvement, it often means she just isn’t bodily drawn to him.
It doesn’t imply she doesn’t “like” him or that they don’t have a lot in widespread. Nonetheless, it does imply that if you would like extra out of a relationship, you’ll have to look elsewhere to search out it.
DEAR ABBY: How can I get my neighbor to cease shopping for us pies?
Her husband died a yr in the past. He had Alzheimer’s for a few years earlier than his passing. We’re very happy to assist her with issues round her home as a result of we consider serving to others is the best factor to do.
We don’t eat many sweets and don’t need the surplus energy. Well being is a excessive precedence. I’ve requested her to cease with the sweets, however she retains shopping for us these things as a thank-you. A verbal thanks can be sufficient.
— PIE-FREE ZONE IN ILLINOIS
DEAR PIE-FREE: The following time your well-meaning neighbor brings a pie to your own home, remind her that you just and your loved ones keep away from sweets for well being causes and a verbal thank-you is greater than sufficient.
If she persists after that, inform her that as a substitute of the pie you’d recognize a fruit salad or a pleasant zucchini. (It’s value a attempt.)
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
