DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I have been internet hosting an off-the-cuff ceremonial dinner in our house for 2 {couples} we like very a lot.
One couple introduced their two youngsters, who get alongside effectively with my two youngsters.
I deliberate to make a dish that’s often straightforward for me, however one way or the other, between serving to the friends discover issues within the kitchen and serving to the kids with snacks and drinks, I burned my one-pot dish severely. Whereas solely the underside layer was charred, a potent, undesirable smoky taste was infused by way of the dish, and I thought-about it to be inedible.
I apologized to the friends that we’d not be capable of eat the meal, saying that I’d order some takeout as an alternative. I assumed that may be essentially the most well mannered course, since I wouldn’t impose a dish on my friends that I didn’t get pleasure from myself.
Properly, Miss Manners, I anticipated some well mannered reassurances after my apology, however one visitor took it to the intense. She vehemently insisted that the dish was nice and that everybody would eat it.
I do know that in her coronary heart she thought she was serving to me save face, however I used to be way more embarrassed by the considered forcing everybody to eat burnt meals than by admitting it had gone fallacious.
I protested. She counter-protested. I insisted. She counter-insisted!
Lastly I gave in, as a result of I didn’t need to bitter the night with an argument, however I spent the remainder of the night anxious that I used to be truly serving this really atrocious meals. Everybody politely mumbled that the smokiness added one thing, and the visitor who had insisted was even sort sufficient to take a second serving to.
Ultimately, the night proceeded easily and all relationships have been preserved, however please inform me, Miss Manners: How would you’ve dealt with this in the event you knew — simply knew! — that nobody might probably be having fun with the meals?
GENTLE READER: Is it doable that your friends have been so hungry, they didn’t care? And that the time it could take to order meals would have been excruciating in mild of their mounting hunger?
To be clear, Miss Manners shouldn’t be disagreeing with you. Your good friend went too far — and mustn’t have acted as ambassador for the opposite friends if she was not licensed to take action. Nevertheless it does make Miss Manners surprise if the friends who have been rooting round within the kitchen have been doing so within the hopes of discovering scraps of meals.
Since your story ends fortunately, nevertheless, it could be finest to let it go. Bear in mind to maintain hearty appetizers readily available subsequent time — in addition to a cautious watch on the range.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Whereas taking our morning stroll within the park, my accomplice and I’ll typically meet a enterprise affiliate of his.
After an trade of greetings, my accomplice and his affiliate will start discussing work.
I’ve little interest in their enterprise. How can I politely proceed my stroll with out having to take heed to their dialogue?
GENTLE READER: “I’ll leave you two to discuss your business. I’m going to go attend to mine.”
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