DEAR ABBY: I stroll with a cane and have issue standing since I had a foul accident.
My condo constructing has a laundry facility for all, with two washing machines. Not too long ago, after I went to do my laundry, one washer was empty and the opposite had a completed load of laundry in it.
The empty one rejected my fee card, so I emptied the opposite individual’s laundry right into a cart so I may use that machine.
That neighbor returned and was upset that I “touched his laundry and didn’t wait for him.” When he demanded an apology, I stated, “Write a note to the board.”
I don’t really feel obligated to show a grown, able-bodied man what entitlement is. Your ideas?
— IN THE WASH IN NEW YORK
DEAR IN THE WASH: Your neighbor is territorial about his issues. Some people are.
Though he apparently returned in an affordable period of time, you had no concept how lengthy he could be, and, as a result of the opposite washer wasn’t working, you had each proper to do what you probably did.
You might need cooled this standoff by giving him the apology he requested for.
You ought to write a observe to the board, informing them that one of many machines within the laundry room wants servicing.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been pals with one other couple for 15 years.
We’d see one another a couple of times per week, alternating between one another’s dwelling and sometimes out to dinner, the place we took turns paying the invoice.
Three years in the past, we purchased our dream dwelling, and since then, our pals have stopped inviting us over to theirs. We have now invited them numerous instances as we take pleasure in their firm, however they’ve stopped reciprocating. They’re additionally much less prone to choose up the tab after we exit.
As soon as, we went three months with out seeing one another. I wished to see how lengthy it could be till they reached out. They by no means did, so I relented and invited them over. They fortunately accepted the invite, and we had the great time we all the time do.
We spare no expense on meals, alcohol and desserts after they come over, which we’re blissful to do, however this has grow to be extraordinarily inequitable. It’s not a matter of cash — they earn the identical quantity as we do.
We have now enjoyable collectively, however I’m critically beginning to resent them for not making an effort towards our friendship.
I’m beginning to surprise if perhaps they aren’t actually good pals and I ought to simply quit, which actually saddens me. Have you ever any recommendation?
— MOVED OUT OF FRIENDSHIP
DEAR MOVED: You acknowledged that for greater than a decade you and this couple lived in houses that had been related, till you moved away and upgraded your way of life.
Has it by no means occurred to you that the explanation these pals now not invite you to their dwelling could also be as a result of they’re embarrassed concerning the comparability? They is also jealous.
Think about telling them you all the time loved visiting them and want to do it once more. Then cross your fingers and hope they’ll take you up on it. You acknowledged that this couple has the identical quantity of earnings that you’ve, however it’s unwise to rely different folks’s cash.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
