DEAR MISS MANNERS: Some time again, a colleague of mine stated that he and his spouse wish to invite me to dinner at their dwelling.
The night of the dinner, there was one other visitor, Chloe, a lady my age who teaches with my colleague’s spouse.
The night was very pleasant, with good dialog. On the finish, the hostess advised me that she had introduced Chloe from college in her automobile and requested if I’d take her dwelling. I did, and stated goodnight to her at her door. She invited me inside, however I declined.
The next week, my colleague gave me a word from his spouse, which stated, “Chloe thinks you may have forgotten to ask for her phone number,” and gave me the quantity.
I understood at this level that I used to be anticipated to cellphone Chloe, however I had no inclination to take action, and I noticed no straightforward option to clarify why. I saved the quantity in my cellphone and took no different motion.
After a number of extra weeks, my colleague requested me how Chloe and I have been getting alongside. I advised him I had not seen or spoken to Chloe because the night at his dwelling.
He turned very upset with me. He and his spouse have been attempting to set me up with Chloe, and Chloe herself, apparently, was agreeable to the thought. I, after all, knew nothing about this on the time.
My most up-to-date relationship ended badly, and I’m having fun with the liberty of not relationship in the mean time. Chloe is a wonderfully good girl, however I’m not fascinated about relationship her or anybody else proper now. My colleague didn’t know any of this.
I really feel unhealthy for Chloe. I’m involved that she feels I’ve rejected her. I believe somebody owes her an evidence, however I’m unsure it’s me.
I don’t see that any of this was my fault, however I don’t know what I ought to do.
GENTLE READER: Do you lose sleep over not listening to telemarketers out to the tip?
As a result of Miss Manners isn’t certain what you assume Chloe or your colleague or his spouse want defined to them. They know you aren’t fascinated about relationship Chloe; they only don’t care. They’re busy deciding what faculties your and Chloe’s future youngsters ought to attend.
You probably did nothing mistaken. Miss Manners hopes you’ll get pleasure from your freedom. Whereas it lasts.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: How do I gently remind a stunning younger neighbor, within the residence subsequent door, that leaving her keys within the door in a single day isn’t a secure factor to do?
I see them in her door lock a minimum of as soon as per week.
Is there a option to get the purpose throughout with out being horribly graphic and terrifying? She is an excellent particular person and I’d hate for any hurt to come back to her.
GENTLE READER: Knock on the door and hand her again the keys a number of occasions. Then, if it retains taking place, preserve the keys in a single day and return them within the morning.
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