DEAR ABBY: My son-in-law is rarely on time for something.
He’s in command of driving his younger son to elementary college and is constantly late by 4 or 5 minutes. He and my daughter have gotten letters reminding them of the significance of being on time. I witness this as a result of we share a house.
He was fired from his final job as a result of lateness.
I’m a really punctual particular person, so his lateness for all the pieces drives me loopy. I’ve tried to lightheartedly handle it, to no avail.
My husband and I are retired, and I steered to my husband that I might provide to take our grandson to high school, however my husband says I ought to keep out of it. How do I address this?
— PUNCTUAL IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR PUNCTUAL: Your grandson shouldn’t should undergo due to his father’s irresponsibility. It is vital that he get to high school on time, with no black marks for tardiness on his document. If meaning your daughter, you or your husband sees that he will get there in a well timed style, so be it.
After all, this doesn’t remedy the issue of your son-in-law’s routine lateness. However maybe he’ll study higher habits when phrase will get round that he can’t punch a clock on time when potential employers ask for references.
DEAR ABBY: Over the previous few years, my household has confronted quite a lot of loss, particularly my mom.
Within the span of three years, she has misplaced her dad and mom, my father and my brother. We had just a little pleasure with my son being born. He introduced quite a lot of happiness when everyone was heartbroken.
Proper after my brother’s demise, we came upon we have been unexpectedly pregnant once more. We thought this might carry extra pleasure for Mother, however we’re getting dangerous information from the docs, and the newborn could not make it to time period or survive very lengthy after start.
I’m undecided methods to break this information to Mother, and my spouse is attending to the place we will not cover that she’s pregnant.
We’re getting a second opinion, however though we’re holding out hope, I’m undecided it can change the state of affairs.
We all know we’ve got to inform Mother one thing. Any recommendation on methods to inform her with out breaking her coronary heart?
— WITHHOLDING IN NEW ENGLAND
DEAR WITHHOLDING: My condolences to your mom, who has skilled quite a lot of loss lately. Nonetheless, she is an grownup and deserves to be a full participant in your lives and handled as such.
For her sake (and yours), inform her what’s going on and provides her the prospect to be supportive of you. In the event you do, in fact the information might be unhappy, however she gained’t be disadvantaged of the prospect to do for you what you might have been doing for her.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
