DEAR ABBY: I’ve been relationship this man for 5 years.
Two years in the past, certainly one of his buddies got here on to me by way of a textual content. I informed him I’m not the form of lady who cheats. He revered that and didn’t textual content me once more.
I informed my boyfriend the very subsequent day, and he not trusts me!
Ever since then, he questions what I’m doing and the place I’m and accuses me of mendacity each time. He thinks I’ve slept with each certainly one of his buddies. He tracks me. He put cameras up and accuses me of deleting all the pieces.
I’ve by no means cheated on him and even thought of it.
All of his accusations are pushing me away. He desires me to take a lie detector take a look at to show I’m harmless. I don’t really feel I ought to should take one once I’m doing nothing flawed.
I actually sit in my home and go nowhere however the grocery retailer. I don’t discuss to a single particular person. I selected to do all that so he would cease accusing me, however he all the time finds one thing flawed.
Ought to I take this take a look at to show he’s been flawed about me this entire time? A part of me worries that even when I take this take a look at, he’ll discover one thing else and it’s by no means gonna cease.
— PRISONER IN OHIO
DEAR PRISONER: Pink flag alert! Your boyfriend’s insecurity is off the charts.
His controlling habits has nothing to do with you and all the pieces to do along with his personal insecurities. What he’s doing to you is sick and abusive. You’ll by no means have the ability to assuage this man’s suspicions.
In your security, I urge you to finish this romance whilst you nonetheless have sufficient shallowness to handle it. If you’re afraid to your security as you try this, contact the Nationwide Home Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 and ask for steering.
DEAR ABBY: A few of my buddies talk about their plans in entrance of me with out inviting me alongside. Am I proper to really feel excluded?
I’m a lady in my late 20s, and I really feel stung when buddies and roommates make plans to hang around with out me whereas I’m standing there. One shut buddy typically reminisces to me about ladies’ nights and outings with our mutual buddies. It hurts, and it has made me really feel like I’m not a part of the group.
Once I informed them how this made me really feel, they assured me we had been certainly buddies and mentioned I used to be being “too sensitive.” I worth these buddies. As a result of they’re my roommates, I can’t keep away from them. For essentially the most half, they’re variety and conscientious.
Ought to I carry up my damage emotions once more or drop the problem and withdraw?
— ODD GIRL OUT
DEAR GIRL: You might be “too sensitive,” however your roommates clearly aren’t delicate sufficient. It’s impolite to do what they’ve been doing.
If I believed mentioning your damage emotions would assist the scenario, I’d advise you to try this, as effectively. A greater plan of action can be to drop the problem and focus on making new buddies.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
