DEAR ABBY: My husband’s daughter lives in one other state. When COVID hit and the colleges closed down, her youngest daughter didn’t personal a laptop computer or pill (and the college didn’t present one), so she couldn’t do her schoolwork.
We provided to supply the kid with a pill and put it on our cellphone plan so she would have entry if their Wi-Fi obtained slowed down or didn’t work.
Quick-forward to right now. That little one is out of highschool and not lives at house. Her mother has possession of the pill and makes use of it repeatedly.
I’m nonetheless paying for the web entry — what I’ve paid in simply month-to-month charges is many occasions the worth of the pill. The mother has job and will take over the plan.
On prime of that, she doesn’t make a lot effort to maintain involved together with her dad or me. Months go by with no cellphone calls or texts, and the final time I dialed her quantity, I obtained a message that made it sound like she had blocked my quantity. Telephone calls from her dad go unanswered.
I wish to shut down the road the pill is linked to, however I do know when she figures it out, she’ll name raging that it was a present. Nonetheless, it was a present to her daughter, to not her.
Should I preserve paying to maintain peace, or shut it down?
— MIFFED STEPMOM
DEAR STEPMOM: I can see why you is likely to be miffed. Your husband’s daughter is distant and never curious about fostering a relationship together with her father otherwise you.
Focus on this together with your husband. As a result of his daughter has a job and may afford to pay the month-to-month entry price, there isn’t a logical motive why you have to be footing the invoice.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3½ years. Earlier than me, he was recognized for sleeping round.
He has by no means cheated on me that I’m conscious of, however once we go to social gatherings (or simply out), he flirts with different girls. If there’s one other girl within the room, he retains his eyes on her like I can’t see it taking place. When he drinks, it’s 10 occasions worse.
I’ve instructed him a number of occasions that it actually bothered me; he stated I used to be overreacting.
I’m making an attempt to let it go, nevertheless it hurts my emotions deeply.
In his thoughts, it’s OK that we hang around with girls he has been to mattress with. He says it’s no large deal.
How do I be taught to take care of all of this and be comfortable? I simply need the respect I deserve.
— GIRLFRIEND OF MR. POPULAR
DEAR GIRLFRIEND: If you’d like the respect you deserve, discover a man who has some respect for girls. Clearly your boyfriend doesn’t.
If he cared about your emotions, he wouldn’t ogle different girls whereas the 2 of you’re out collectively. Doing so after you instructed him the way it affected you is impolite and thoughtless.
I do know you’ve got invested a variety of time on this individual, however he isn’t going to vary. Except you wish to maybe be married to a womanizer with a ingesting drawback, finish the romance now. (And as soon as that’s achieved, ask your physician to check you for STDs.)
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
