DEAR ABBY: I’ve lately found that my mother-in-law has two life insurance coverage insurance policies on me, neither of which I knew about, and one in all which is shut to twenty years outdated.
I by no means requested nor licensed her to take out these insurance policies, and I’m very involved.
We should not have a very good relationship. She isn’t welcome in my life or our house as a result of she is disrespectful and meddlesome. My husband has little or no to do along with her however doesn’t appear to be bothered by the truth that she took it upon herself to get these insurance policies.
As a result of she sells insurance coverage, she makes it appear to be it’s no huge deal, however it’s to me.
I’ve my very own insurance coverage and have for all of my grownup life (I’m nearing 50), and I’m appalled on the thought of her accumulating a payout from my demise. She has by no means supplied us a replica of the insurance policies, nor do we all know who the beneficiaries are. The truth is, we all know of their existence solely as a result of she let it slip in a dialog once we instructed her that, as a result of she is so impolite and disrespectful, we’re limiting our contact along with her.
Am I loopy, or are my issues justified? Is it even authorized for her to have these? Why is she wagering on my dying earlier than her?
— LIFE INSURED IN NEVADA
DEAR LIFE INSURED: You’ve got my sympathy. Your mother-in-law seems to be a handful.
Focus on this with your individual insurance coverage agent. Clarify what you’ve discovered and ask whether or not what your mother-in-law has performed is authorized, as a result of it is probably not. That she is within the insurance coverage enterprise makes this even worse.
That you just grew to become conscious of this info throughout an “unpleasant” dialog strikes me as attainable retaliation for telling her one thing she didn’t wish to hear. She could even be mendacity about it.
Your insurance coverage agent can clarify what cures could be taken to right this whether it is true. If she is a licensed dealer who has performed one thing unlawful, she might lose her license.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been alienated from my daughter, “Bonnie,” for 30 years. Her mom and I divorced, and I remarried. Bonnie was in her late teenagers and early 20s on the time.
For a time, she lived with me, my new spouse and my spouse’s daughter. Bonnie was an absolute “queen” and thought we must always defer to her each want. She supplied no assist round the home and paid no lease.
I lastly requested her to depart. It was both get her out of the home or lose my new spouse.
Later, Bonnie married and requested me to come back to her wedding ceremony however not deliver my spouse. I instructed her, “Sorry, I won’t be there.” She was indignant at me for it and nonetheless is, in line with her brother.
I’ve written her off however have been inspired by a pal to try to reconnect along with her.
I believe Bonnie has a grudge, and it will be ineffective to try reconciliation and open myself as much as extra ache from being round her. I believe she’s caught in what occurred 30 years in the past and isn’t about to let go. Your opinion, please?
— DEJECTED DAD IN OREGON
DEAR DAD: Has this pal or Bonnie’s brother given you any impression that Bonnie want to reconcile with you and your spouse? If the reply is sure, give it a attempt. If not, let sleeping canine lie.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
