DEAR ABBY: I taught tennis classes at a personal membership for 41 years. Then got here the pandemic. I used to be furloughed and never requested to return to work.
I wasn’t given the standard parting acknowledgement that earlier workers acquired — no goodbyes, no thank-yous.
Within the successive years, I’ve requested for a free membership as a present for my years of service. Up to now, the reply is “no.”
Is my request legitimate? Ought to I proceed asking?
— SERVING FAIRNESS IN ILLINOIS
DEAR SERVING: You didn’t point out what number of occasions you have got requested for the membership as a present to your years of service, but when it has been greater than as soon as, cease asking as a result of it isn’t going to occur.
A furlough is outlined as a short lived layoff for a specified time frame. Staff retain their jobs and advantages however don’t receives a commission throughout that interval. If that is what your separation from that personal membership was known as, it might be time to talk to an legal professional about the way you had been handled.
DEAR ABBY: I believe the world of “Celia,” my finest buddy of 25 years.
She has been there for me via many main ups and downs in my life. She is gorgeous inside and outside, well-educated and works laborious.
Celia has been in a five-year relationship with an previous buddy I’ll name “Vince.” I believe he’s a pleasant man, however not for her.
He has no want to do higher in life, doesn’t present for her and lives off her cash. He barely works, and his time is spent out and about having fun with himself whereas Celia works two, generally three, jobs.
Now Celia’s bodily well being is struggling, and so is her psychological well being.
Vince has a child who generally stays over, and after they run out of cash, Celia asks me to assist cowl them. She sees nothing unsuitable on this and needs to have a baby of her personal with him.
I’ve had many talks with Celia, however they go nowhere.
I’ve helped with cash a number of occasions and she or he at all times pays me again. However just lately, after she requested me for cash for meals for the three of them, I discovered they went to the flicks as an alternative. Now I really feel used. That is simply not OK.
I not need to give her cash to cowl a grown man’s accountability. I’m undecided find out how to inform her I can not assist out with cash.
— STRAINED FRIENDSHIP
DEAR STRAINED: Celia could also be well-educated, however it seems she has critical shallowness points, little widespread sense and a parasite for a boyfriend.
That she would take into account having a baby with Vince, a person who can’t assist himself or the kid he already has, is coconuts!
Inform your lovely buddy that whereas you take care of her, you’ll not subsidize the three of them, and utilizing your cash to pay for film tickets was the final straw. Then don’t relent.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
