DEAR ABBY: A good friend whom I’ve identified for a few years remarried her ex-husband a couple of years in the past.
I didn’t know her when she was married to him the primary time. My husband and I don’t like him.
The final time we met for lunch, her husband confirmed my husband a gun he was carrying in his pocket! Abby, he’s an aged man with a tremor in his arms.
She retains emailing me concerning the 4 of us assembly once more, and we’re each scared to fulfill them since he’s armed and has that tremor. We’re afraid it might by accident go off and shoot one in every of us.
I don’t know what to inform her. Any recommendation?
— FRIGHTENED IN TEXAS
DEAR FRIGHTENED: Remember the fact that carrying a gun is authorized in Texas. Additionally, many weapons have security units in order that they don’t hearth by accident.
There’s a distinction between not liking somebody and being afraid of socializing with an armed particular person. You don’t need to sacrifice your lengthy friendship with this girl. If you happen to don’t wish to see them as a pair, get collectively along with her individually.
DEAR ABBY: My son and his spouse have give up talking to my husband and me as a result of I gave them COVID.
At their invitation, we took a visit with them to Hawaii. I started feeling sick on the airplane and examined optimistic the subsequent day. A pair days later, my son obtained sick, after which a couple of days later, his spouse obtained it. I advised them repeatedly how sorry I used to be that I’d contaminated them and spoiled their trip.
We at all times had a detailed relationship — frequent telephone calls, visits, dinners, and many others. — however for the final six weeks, nothing. He advised his brother he was livid as a result of I attempted to “kill” them.
I’m at a loss about what to do, if something. What would Expensive Abby do?
— GUILTY IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR GUILTY: What Expensive Abby would do is give your son a while to chill off after which attain out and apologize once more.
He must develop up. You didn’t make anybody sick on goal, and it simply as simply might have been your son or daughter-in-law infecting you.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in love with a person for greater than 30 years. We by no means married, however he calls me his spouse. I’m conscious of his infidelity and settle for him as-is.
I’m additionally concerned with my youngest little one’s father, whom I’ve been round for 15 years. I’m caught between the 2 and may’t discover the best way out.
My little one’s father supplies financially, however emotionally the person of 30 years is who I would like. My downside is, he gained’t commit. Please assist.
— TORN IN WASHINGTON
DEAR TORN: If both of those two males needed marriage, it might have occurred years in the past.
If you happen to actually need somebody to construct a secure future with, search for somebody who may give you extra stability than these two “prizes.” Discover a man who is on the market and prepared.
Proper now, you might be simply treading water, which is able to get you no additional than you might be at this time.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
