DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve all the time had a concern of heights, which has made me hesitant to strive issues that contain being up excessive. Nevertheless, one merchandise on my bucket listing has been going skydiving in Dubai, and I’m decided to overcome this concern.
I do know that dealing with my concern head-on can be an enormous private achievement; the concept of leaping out of an airplane fills me with nervousness. I’m dedicated to pushing myself out of my consolation zone, and I consider that overcoming this concern would assist me develop in methods I’ve by no means imagined.
Nonetheless, I’m torn between my want to meet this dream and the overwhelming concern that has held me again for therefore lengthy.
I wish to make this expertise a actuality, however I don’t know the way to quiet my nerves and embrace the problem. How can I overcome my concern of heights and take that leap towards one thing I’ve all the time wished to do?
— Fearful Hesitation
DEAR FEARFUL HESITATION: In case you are severe about skydiving, this implies you have to be severe about dealing with your concern of heights. You would possibly strive one thing extra manageable to construct as much as skydiving, like mountain climbing at a gymnasium. There are a lot of gyms and different managed areas that provide climbing lessons to assist folks learn to transfer up in area fastidiously and push previous their fears.
You may also contemplate consulting a therapist. Working with an expert might help you unlock no matter fears you could have in order that she will face them and doubtlessly neutralize them.
I like to recommend that you simply take these steps and probably others — like going to an observatory on the high of a skyscraper or consuming at a restaurant on the high of a tall constructing — earlier than going to a different nation and leaping out of a aircraft.
DEAR HARRIETTE: “Baby No More” complained that her older siblings nonetheless deal with her just like the child of the household. Your recommendation was spot-on; nevertheless, I might add that yet one more factor she will do is increase her older son to deal with his youthful brother in a different way as they develop as much as break that cycle.
— You Can Change
DEAR YOU CAN CHANGE: Sure! Break the cycle with your personal kids when you can.
DEAR HARRIETTE: Concerning “Baby No More” and their older siblings: Not too long ago, my center sister came around me. (I’m the youngest by six years.) I had all the time visited her earlier than, and I by no means had the chance to drive through the go to as I had flown to her place.
Whereas she was right here, we determined to buy groceries. We bought within the automotive and proceeded to hit the street. She regarded puzzled and mentioned, “I can’t believe that my baby sister is driving!” To which I replied, “Doris, I am 50 years old.”
We each broke into hilarious laughter — it was an actual sister second. As soon as a bit of sister, all the time a bit of sister.
— Little Sister
DEAR LITTLE SISTER: This start order factor is superb, and it takes moments such as you driving the automotive to open folks’s eyes.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founding father of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to assist folks entry and activate their goals. You possibly can ship inquiries to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
