DEAR MISS MANNERS: I grew up in an period when it was customary to surround a private test in a greeting card as a present. This labored for celebrations attended in individual, and in addition when the cardboard was mailed.
Private checks are getting used much less and fewer. I personally write possibly two or three monthly.
My grownup daughter simply attended the marriage of a faculty classmate, and the place we reside, the overwhelming majority of wedding ceremony presents are envelopes containing money or checks. Whereas my daughter has maintained a checking account for a number of years, she hasn’t wanted a checkbook till this wedding ceremony.
Our resolution was to have her switch funds to my account, after which I wrote the test to the newlyweds.
With the altering instances, is it acceptable to make use of on-line cash switch providers for such events? On the floor, it might come throughout as cheesy for a marriage invitation to incorporate, say, a Venmo hyperlink, however it might be slightly handy for all events.
GENTLE READER: It will be much more environment friendly for them to ask on your checking account and routing numbers.
Miss Manners will spare her readers the lecture on cash being an unseemly current, because it lacks that once-treasured ingredient of thoughtfulness. However she is going to say that in the event you should give it, a written test is at the least a bit extra decorous.
A bodily envelope, whereas in all probability no extra prone to solicit a thank-you letter, will at the least be a reminder {that a} current was given — versus a sterile monetary transaction on an internet site known as “Gimme Dat Money.”
DEAR MISS MANNERS: How ought to I finest phrase a request for friends to let me find out about any lodging they could want after I’m planning a midsize to massive occasion?
Examples would possibly embody dietary restrictions or mobility wants, and the context is an informal occasion the place friends would carry dishes to cross. Most of our occasion planning and dialogue is finished digitally.
I’d like to know a script that might let folks know they will converse up with out feeling placed on the spot. I would like them to know that we’re comfortable to help, and that serving to them isn’t burdensome in any manner. It’s a difficult stability to strike.
GENTLE READER: Forgive Miss Manners if she has gotten cynical {that a} visitor could be reluctant to come back ahead to state their preferences and desires. She is so used to listening to from aggravated and overburdened hosts who get so many such requests that they have no idea the way to fulfill all of them.
That you’re truly soliciting this data and wanting to accommodate it’s refreshing.
Since that is already an informal occasion the place friends are being requested to carry their very own dishes, it’s unlikely that friends won’t serve their very own dietary wants. However for different sorts of lodging, Miss Manners suggests, “We are looking forward to seeing you. Please let us know if there are any special requirements you may have.”
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