DEAR ABBY: My brother and his spouse have been married for 22 years. He has all the time been the breadwinner.
She stayed house with their three children, which made it attainable for them to lift a household. He adopted his profession, which concerned loads of journey.
My sister-in-law and I had a heart-to-heart after they have been first married about whether or not this was a superb association as a result of it left her susceptible, however she was positive my brother noticed her as an equal accomplice.
It seems she was unsuitable.
Their marriage has develop into shaky, and he now says he’s going to get “screwed” in the event that they divorce as a result of his spouse will take “his” cash. She raised their children and ran the home with out assist, and now he’s saying none of that was vital work.
Any decide would give her alimony, however he’s stuffed with resentment, and it’s making the state of affairs more durable.
I’ve tried speaking with my brother; he accuses me of being on her facet. They’re in remedy, however he’s being so imply that I can hardly take a look at him now.
How can I assist my brother perceive that she did loads of the work that made it attainable for him to have his job?
— SISTER SEES IT CLEARLY
DEAR SISTER: Let your brother’s lawyer and the household regulation decide clarify the info of life to your brother.
He’s stuffed with anger and greed proper now and never considering rationally. You aren’t going to win the disagreement you might be having with him, so to your personal sake, again off. I can solely provide my sympathy to your sister-in-law.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve very totally different approaches to social media; He’s all in, and I’m all out.
I don’t “do” the web. I don’t have Fb, Instagram, X, Snapchat and no matter else individuals are utilizing as of late.
I give up utilizing social media 5 years in the past after I realized how a lot it was contributing to my stress. Leaving it behind has helped me tremendously.
My difficulty is that my husband is on all of it day, each day and he “doomscrolls,” which might make any unhealthy temper he’s in worse. That is irritating sufficient, however my actual criticism is he continuously tries to contain me. He desires to indicate me posts or learn them to me and expects me to take part in his more and more unhealthy temper.
How do I get him to cease? I’ve instructed him earlier than that I don’t wish to hear it and, if I did, I’d have an account myself.
— UNPLUGGED IN MICHIGAN
DEAR UNPLUGGED: The following time your husband does this, ask him if he realizes how badly it impacts you.
Inform him you uncoupled from social media since you acknowledged it wasn’t good for you emotionally or bodily. (Sensational information has been recognized to trigger blood strain to go up.)
Inform him emphatically that you simply don’t like what his habit to social media does to his character, and to not strategy you with it once more or you’ll go away the room or the home. Then do it.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
