DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’ve been a vegetarian for 15 years. It by no means fails that when a fellow diner finds out this data, they instantly take it upon themselves to learn aloud every part on the menu that I’m “allowed” to have.
It’s as if being a vegetarian means I can now not learn. I typically don’t expose my consuming preferences due to this.
And it by no means ends! I can eat with mates I’ve identified for many years, and as quickly because the menus are positioned on the desk, I’m bombarded with “Oh, look, Giselle, you can have (XYZ).”
Consider me once I say it occurs each single time. I would like it to cease. What can I say that isn’t impolite? (By the way in which, my husband all the time says they’re simply being good. I say they’re being annoying!)
GENTLE READER: “Thank you, yes, I saw that.” And they’re being annoying.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Whereas staying at a stunning resort, every morning earlier than leaving my room, I’d place $10 on the writing desk for the maid.
After I returned to my room the second day, I seen that the cash was nonetheless there. The room regarded very good, so clearly the maid had performed her work. I sorted it out with the entrance desk and the cash was left for her in an envelope.
I perceive that the identical individual is probably not cleansing every day, so the place ought to I depart the tip to make certain every individual collects it?
I’ve all the time left tip cash on the writing desk. My husband urged that it’s left on the mattress pillow.
GENTLE READER: This isn’t a lot a query of fine manners pretty much as good visibility. Miss Manners suggests you place the cash wherever you assume it is going to be most simply seen. Or in no matter spot wants probably the most cleansing.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Simply over a 12 months in the past, my good friend “Tara” requested me, one other good friend and that good friend’s cousin “Grace” to be bridesmaids in her marriage ceremony.
Tara didn’t have lots of feminine mates, so Grace was requested regardless of being simply an acquaintance. She agreed.
Quick-forward a number of months and Grace was sending out invitations to her personal marriage ceremony. She had a restricted finances and house for her ceremony and reception, so she didn’t invite Tara.
Tara was upset and thought that she ought to have been invited in reciprocation, though she had not made an try and construct or keep a relationship with Grace since her personal marriage ceremony.
Whereas I didn’t get myself concerned within the matter, it received me serious about what can be correct. Ought to Grace have invited Tara to her marriage ceremony as a result of she was in Tara’s?
GENTLE READER: There’s a distinction between forging a friendship and casting roles in a marriage. However Miss Manners is starting to see why it was needed for Tara to interact within the latter.
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