DEAR ABBY: I’m a 19-year-old man and reside with my dad and mom. We now have this neighbor, “Ed,” who, till just lately, was buddies with my dad.
We’ve frolicked with him a number of occasions and have even gone over to one another’s homes to look at sports activities video games and eat dinner.
The issue is, Ed has turn out to be very overbearing and unusual. He has at all times been slightly off the wall, which, at first, we each discovered hilarious. However since then, his foul language and vulgarities have rubbed us the flawed approach.
He’s disrespectful to his spouse and son, which I do know isn’t my enterprise, however Dad and I are over it.
Currently, Ed has been continually calling and texting my dad. Now he has began texting me asking why my father isn’t responding. I don’t understand how he acquired my quantity. Final month, Ed walked into our home by our sliding glass door whereas I used to be dwelling alone watching TV.
Dad appears to need to simply ignore the difficulty, however I believe it’s the flawed transfer. Ought to I strategy this nosy and indignant neighbor?
— UNEASY IN ILLINOIS
DEAR UNEASY: No, you shouldn’t. Preserve that sliding glass door locked.
And, in the event you obtain any extra texts from this man, block him. You aren’t required to debate your father’s or your change in perspective with him.
DEAR ABBY: My 25-year-old niece is getting married in 4 months.
5 years in the past, she misplaced her father in a tragic accident whereas her dad and mom have been on trip. Since that point, she has come out as homosexual and grown nearer to me than to her mother (my sister).
I used to be at all times near my sister and each of her daughters whereas they have been rising up and helped out financially when occasions have been powerful. My sister just lately remarried and plans to maneuver to a different state together with her new husband previous to the marriage.
My niece has requested me to stroll her down the aisle together with my sister. My sister mentioned it’s disrespectful to her since she is the mom.
I don’t need to harm my sister or my niece. My niece says it’s each of us or neither one. (There aren’t any grandparents.) I advised her I need to sit with my husband for the marriage and that her mother ought to stroll her down the aisle.
The opposite bride’s dad and mom will probably be strolling their daughter down the aisle.
I do know it’s my niece’s marriage ceremony and he or she ought to have what she needs, however I really feel caught within the center.
Any options?
— TORN IN TWO IN MASSACHUSETTS
DEAR TORN: I do have one.
You have got already advised your niece you would like to take a seat along with your husband moderately than trigger resentment out of your sister. Your niece feels strongly about having you stroll together with her, and it’s her marriage ceremony.
You may recommend strolling her midway down the aisle after which handing her off to her mom. However go away the ultimate choice the place it belongs — which is with the bride.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
