DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I’ve been having an argument for days now about one thing one in all his pals did.
We moved to a brand new condominium, and mentioned pal has been right here twice. Each instances, he spent an hour or two with my husband, after which went outdoors to satisfy up with folks he invited over.
They didn’t really are available in, they only stayed outdoors chatting, however it infuriates me that he’s giving out our handle to folks whom 1. I have no idea, and a pair of. we didn’t invite.
My husband says that the place they’re each from, it’s regular for folks to try this, and it’s not a giant deal. I say it’s unsafe and in addition very impolite.
This final time he was right here, he additionally arrived three hours later than he mentioned he would, at evening.
I discover him a really impolite visitor, and we now have agreed to not have him over anymore.
Do you assume I’m overreacting, since these folks he randomly invitations to my house keep outdoors and don’t keep for a very long time?
GENTLE READER: Does this pal not have a house to go to?
It appears odd to Miss Manners that he would in any other case invite folks over to the skin of yours. In any case, she finds him an ill-mannered visitor and your determination to stop inviting him a sound one.
In case your husband needs to proceed the connection, he can meet him outdoors one other pal’s home.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I run a store from my home. It’s largely on-line, however often I’ve prospects make an appointment to go to “in store.”
A lot of them will simply textual content “I’m here” from their parked automobiles and keep there, ready for some sort of invitation by textual content.
I feel that is silly and impolite. I’m in my “shop,” ready for a knock on the door. After I get a textual content like this, I’ve to go to my cellphone to see the message, then go to the entrance door, solely to search out that nobody is there. Typically they see me open the door, however nonetheless look forward to me to textual content again, “Come to the door.”
Both method, I’m standing at my open door, ready. I want to inform them to develop up (some are even middle-aged!), however in fact, I don’t wish to drive away prospects.
Is there a well mannered solution to deal with this however nonetheless get the purpose throughout that their conduct is bizarre and thoughtless? If I attempt to preempt this by texting one thing like “Please ring doorbell when you arrive,” is that impolite?
GENTLE READER: Whereas this shop-at-home association would possibly really feel regular to you, well-intentioned folks might discover it intrusive. (Miss Manners will remind you that individuals now assume it impolite to make a phone name with out sending a textual content message first.)
Assuring your prospects beforehand that it’s nice to stroll proper as much as the home will give them the permission they want. And extra importantly, it’s going to guard towards them annoying you with all these pointless texts.
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