DEAR ABBY: I not too long ago realized that my brother’s spouse kisses my boyfriend on the mouth each time she greets him.
All of us dwell in the identical city and get collectively for dinners and occasions usually.
I like my sister-in-law and don’t imagine she would ever do something to harm me or my brother. Our households and my mother are all shut.
This all got here to mild after a latest dinner the place my brother seen this kiss (and a cheek rub) and questioned her.
My boyfriend advised me about it and doesn’t assume it’s a giant deal. He says it might be impolite to current his cheek as a substitute. I advised him I’m not snug with this, and that it wouldn’t be impolite to implement a boundary.
I’m making an attempt to not make this into a serious challenge, however I’m indignant at each my SIL and my boyfriend for not telling me about this sooner. I really feel betrayed, and now I’m feeling suspicious.
I’ve toyed with asking her to cease, however it appears form of juvenile and insecure to say it to her. Please give me your trustworthy, unbiased take.
— TAKEN ABACK IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR TAKEN ABACK: As a result of this bothers you a lot that you’d write to me about it, say one thing about it to your sister-in-law.
Inform her it could be harmless, however the thought of anybody apart from you kissing your boyfriend on the mouth makes you uncomfortable, which is why you’re asking her to cease.
Your emotions are your emotions, and also you needn’t apologize for them.
DEAR ABBY: I’m 12, and I’m relationship a boy from my class. I do know what you’re pondering, however no, we now have not had intercourse or kissed, and he’s not pressuring me to.
My drawback is one thing else — texting!
He texts me each morning and chats all day. He usually texts in the midst of an exercise like going to the seaside or flying a kite, and truly apologizes for going into the water and stopping the texting.
I can’t spend that a lot time involved as a result of I’ve different issues in my life. Whereas I actually like him, I don’t wish to spend this a lot time texting anybody. Plus, our conversations are getting boring as a result of neither of us has something extra to say.
Abby, I really feel responsible for not having the ability to sustain the conversations. He has an energetic social life, so it’s not like he’s relying on me for leisure.
He’s a very nice man. There’s simply this texting challenge. What ought to I do?
— TOO MUCH CONTACT IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR TOO MUCH: Be utterly trustworthy with the boy. Inform him you assume he’s a very nice man and you want him, however that you’ve issues you have to be doing apart from always texting. (It’s the reality.) Then give him some occasions whenever you would welcome his texts.
That is known as creating boundaries, and beginning at your age, it’s actually good apply.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
