DEAR ABBY: I used to be with my ex-fiance for 13 years. Not lengthy after he broke up with me, I went to fulfill him at a resort.
It’s been a 12 months and half, and we’ve got been seeing one another usually, as soon as every week no less than. We exit and luxuriate in our time collectively like we’re courting.
The irritating factor is, he doesn’t need to let me know the place he lives. He says it’s a consolation factor for him to have “just his space.”
Anytime I ask about our scenario, he says he doesn’t know what he desires.
All the issues he does for me present he loves and cares about me. It seems like we’re on this bizarre limbo, virtually like he’s stringing me alongside as a result of he doesn’t say if he ever desires to get again collectively. He says, “Why can’t you just enjoy what we’re doing?”
I would like extra with him and higher than we had earlier than.
We have been in a foul place earlier than, and I didn’t deal with him properly. I used to be going by way of issues and took it out on him.
In our time aside, not being a pair, I’ve labored on myself to turn out to be a happier and more healthy particular person and have gotten my life so as. I like him very a lot, and I hope for extra. Any recommendation?
— SITUATIONSHIP IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR SITUATIONSHIP: When an individual is secretive, they often have one thing to cover. As a result of your not-quite-ex refuses to provide you his deal with (after a 12 months and a half!), it’s probably he has somebody residing there with him.
Earlier than your engagement ended, you demonstrated that you might be abusive once you have been careworn. That he doesn’t need to threat one other spherical of that’s comprehensible.
From what you’ve written, he’s having fun with issues simply the way in which they’re. He doesn’t need extra. Since you do, you’ll have to discover somebody who can provide the future you’re in search of.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve a brother-in-law who, when he offers a good day or goodbye hug, desires to provide a kiss on the lips.
My spouse doesn’t need the kiss and turns her head away. He then proceeds to kiss her on the cheek, which she doesn’t need both, particularly when it’s an open-mouth slobber.
He does this with different sisters-in-law, and most of them flip their heads when he comes operating with the pucker.
How can we method this case with out hurting his emotions or embarrassing him?
— SMOOCHED IN WISCONSIN
DEAR SMOOCHED: Could it’s frank? People who find themselves so insensitive that they fail to acknowledge when a kiss is undesirable want to be advised immediately that it’s a turnoff. If that “embarrasses” the kisser, so be it. (Yuck!)
DEAR ABBY: I’m a straight male who likes sporting girls’ bike shorts underneath my shorts and pants.
Within the winter, I like sporting girls’ leggings and stockings as a result of they maintain my legs heat. I additionally love the way in which they really feel.
Nobody is aware of about me doing this. I’ve been in a relationship for a few years, and my girlfriend doesn’t know. Is it OK to put on these things?
— SECRETIVE IN NEW YORK
DEAR SECRETIVE: Out of your description, you might be what’s outlined as an undercover cross-dresser. By doing this, you might be hurting nobody. You might be removed from the one man who enjoys it.
Sure, it’s OK to proceed as you’ve been doing.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
