I instructed her earlier than we had been married that, whereas I like animals, I are not looking for a pet. She’s an animal lover and is now pressuring me to get a small canine. She’s hoping I’ll change my place, however I can’t.
She instructed me this morning that she may need to depart me and discover somebody who desires a pet. I instructed her I perceive and can settle for her choice.
Now I would like steerage as a result of I notice {that a} canine is extra vital to her than our relationship. Please assist.
— ANNOYED IN INDIANA
DEAR ANNOYED : I want you’d have said why you are feeling so strongly about not having a (small) canine in your house. You and your spouse want extra mediation than I can provide in a letter.
A wedding counselor might be able to enable you to speak with one another extra successfully than you’ve been.
On your spouse to have given you a semi-ultimatum was fallacious, nevertheless it signifies to me that you just two might have extra issues to resolve than whether or not to get a canine.
DEAR ABBY : I’ve been with the identical man for 3 years, and we now have been engaged for a 12 months.
I like him with all my coronary heart, however I simply realized by means of a telephone name that he has been playing around with males from the web. I’ve additionally seen some messages in his e mail.
Does this imply he’s bi and by no means instructed me? I don’t know what to do. Please assist me earlier than I make a mistake.
— HURTING IN LOVE
DEAR HURTING : What this implies is your fiance is both bisexual or homosexual. For each your sakes, inform him you realize what has been happening, as a result of if he’s untrue now, marriage vows gained’t change him.
Ask your physician to check you for STDs, after which name off the marriage so yow will discover a mate who will probably be devoted — and he can discover a relationship by which he can actually be himself.
DEAR ABBY : Our daughter, son-in-law and two grandsons dwell in Australia due to our son-in-law’s job.
One grandson will probably be bar mitzvahed quickly, and our daughter is asking us to ship her a listing of our mates so she will ship them invites.
By 
